Porn-Again Fashion

Kpriss left the following comment at my White Bra & Panties With Black Lace Overlay post:

besides the fact that this photo looks rather porn-ish than fashion-ish

I’m not just picking on kpriss; I hear this sort of thing a lot. And while I have made statements before on this, I thought it was time to do it again…

I believe that lingerie is directly related to sex & sex appeal. As intimate apparel, it not only touches our most intimate parts but the most intimate moments of and acts in our lives.

Lingerie figuratively & literally (the bullet bra, for example) helps us project the images of ourselves that we wish to. Of course, it can also be more mysterious and chaste too. And we control the who, when and where of its visibility. Not allowing it to be seen by others, even keeping our virginity, is a matter of our sex lives. So, lingerie is sexy & related to sex.

I wish (and have demanded here) that those who sold lingerie would accept such facts, and stop acting so darn prudish by pretending otherwise.

At the same time, I wish more companies would admit to & market the romance of lingerie. While the confusion regarding lingerie is continued by the mixed marketing messages, and often has its sexuality down-played as a way to “get it past censors” so the ad can be placed, much of this confusion comes from a fundamental lack of understanding both lingerie and the lingerie buyer.

Not all lingerie needs to be crass & blunt, nor sold that way. Just like sex itself, lingerie and “sexy” come in many flavors, white cotton grannie panties are just as much the stuff of hot fantasies as silky slips, stockings & garters, and (not for me personally) thongs. When it comes to human sexuality, there are as many fantasies & fetishes as their are individual people; we really have no way of knowing… This topic (topics?) really deserves a more complete post of its own — and I will get to it, eventually — but for now I return to the matter of the relationship between sex & lingerie.

And of lingerie’s fundamental sex appeal.

I find no shame, misogyny, or sexism in that. Not as long as I control my body, what I wear, the image (and breasts) that I project.

And, yes, I do dress for me, not for men or a societal standard.

I’m not only big on personal style & comfort, but on your right to dress as you’d like. I can (and often do, by the way), opt for modesty when out & about in public and while I personally find the sight of a whale-tail a blight; I agree you have the right to look (in my opinion, cheap and crass) as you’d like. I also find baggy pants on man-boys a huge turn-off, baseball caps sideways (on anyone) super silly looking, and sweatpants worn to social events (yes, even children’s birthday parties) repellent; but you have the right to them. I’m opinionated; but not one to legislate my personal tastes.

While the image shown in that post could be described as “porn-ish” or just plain pornographic, who is to say that fully dressed photos are not equally erotic to others? In fact…

Fashion itself has enjoyed a ridiculous entitlement to be sexy & pornographic. I don’t just mean runway couture either, but fashion magazines targeting the everyday woman who will buy off the rack.

Look at this gem from a 1973 Cosmo:

We’ve grown up with this for so long that we don’t really even see it anymore.

But we complain about women in bras & panties, while a woman showing off her nipples sucking on a stick is just fine. Fine enough to leave laying around on the cocktail table or in the family bathroom, while we, as Gracie says, hide the Playboys; because it’s just fashion.

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