Come Into My Room… For TMI, Dahrlinks

1. What is the best relationship advice you’ve ever received?

Never go to bed angry.

2. How many people have you dated at once? How many people do you think it is acceptable to date at once?

Lord, I don’t really know… In my twenties I dated quite a lot but I have no idea how many I was dating at the same time. I mean what’s the time span? Sometimes you have one date and neither of you cares to repeat it or you never have a second for whatever reason, and so that’s one date one night — how do you count it up with the guys you date a few times over a span of weeks or months? Do I count the number of guys who called during a month, even if schedules meant we didn’t actually have a date for weeks, because I was ‘intending to date them’?

I do remember having dates with 3 different guys in one day (which would be my personal ‘record’ if you will), but that’s the most ‘counting’ I can offer.

As for how many is acceptable? Well, the only way any dating is acceptable really, is when both you and your dates agree (to things you discuss, not assumptions). So while no one needs to agree to numbers (‘cuz as we’ve just seen I wouldn’t have been able to do that lol), people should agree that they can (and will) date others — or not.

3. What made your worst kiss so bad?

He had so much drool pooled in his mouth that it was forced to run out of his mouth onto our lips, our chins and into my mouth. I felt like a very large St Bernard or other drooly dog had been standing over my face.

4. Can a relationship last if the sex is bad?

That sounds like the tag line for a movie! Can’t you just hear movie announcer guy saying, “Can a relationships last if the sex is bad?”

Anyways, to answer the question, movie announcer guy, it would depend entirely upon the persons in the relationship. If they (unlike myself) didn’t value sex, and/or if they valued other things more than the sex, than sure.

And there are, unfortunately, many people who cannot have good sex or sex at all because of injuries & illnesses, and they remain happily together. Their family, commitment and love for each other does not fade because some drunk driver changed their bodies. My husband and I even discussed such things…

If, for whatever reason, one of us could no longer have sex, desire sex or satisfy the other, we’ve talked about how the other could seek sex elsewhere — preferably with a pro, so there’s no confusion of emotions. Certainly discussions now don’t mean that should such horrific things happen :knocks wood: that the other has a ‘go’ to start immediately, but it does mean each of us is aware both how important sex is to each of us as well as the fact that our love is equal in measure and we’d seek to find the missing piece (sex) elsewhere and not abandon the relationship &/or family.

5. What one thing would you like your partner to do every time you have sex with them?

Kiss me.

Bonus (as in optional): What is your secret weapon to lure in the opposite sex?

Boy, you’re really asking for a girl to give away the store! My best advice is that flirt and tease works better than any direct flashing of body parts does.

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